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How to Be a Man (如何成为一个男人)

What does it mean to be a man today? How can men consciously express their masculinity without becoming cold or closed-hearted on the one hand… or wimpy and emasculated on the other? What’s the most loving way for a conscious man to express himself?

Here are 10 ways to live more consciously as a man:

在今日成为一个男人是什么意思?男人要如何自觉的展现他们的男人特质,且在一方面不变得冷漠或内心封闭… 并在另一方面不变得懦弱或柔弱?什么是一个自觉的男人展现他自己最美好的方式?

这里是让男人更自觉的生活的 10 个方法:

1. Make real decisions.

A man understands and respects the power of choice. He lives a life of his own creation. He knows that life stagnates when he fails to decide and flourishes when he chooses a clear path.

When a man makes a decision, he opens the door he wants and closes the doors he doesn’t want. He locks onto his target like a guided missile. There’s no guarantee he’ll reach his target, and he knows this, but he doesn’t need such guarantees. He simply enjoys the sense of inevitability that comes from pushing the launch button.

A man doesn’t require the approval of others. He’s willing to follow his heart wherever it leads him. When a man is following his heart-centered path, it’s of little consequence if the entire world is against him.

1. 做真正的决定

一个男人了解并尊重选择的力量。他活在一个他自己创造的生活里。他知道当他不决定时人生停滞,而当他选择一条清楚的路径时人生是多采多姿的。

当一个男人做决定时,他打开他想要的门并关上他不想要的门。他像导弹般的锁住他的目标。没人能保证他会到达他的目标,而他也知道这点,但他不需要这样的保证。他就是喜爱压下发射按钮所带来的那必然性感觉。

一个男人不需要别人的认同。他愿意追随他的内心,不管它引领他去哪里。当一个男人追随他内心的路径,即使全世界都反对他,后果也是唯不足道。

2. Put your relationships second.

A man who claims his #1 commitment in life is his relationship partner (or his family) is either too dishonest or too weak to be trusted. His loyalties are misplaced. A man who values individuals above his own integrity is a wretch, not a free thinker.

A man knows he must commit to something greater than satisfying the needs of a few people. He’s not willing to be domesticated, but he is willing to accept the responsibility that comes with greater challenges. He knows that when he shirks that duty, he becomes something less than a man. When others observe that the man is unyieldingly committed to his values and ideals, he gains their trust and respect, even when he cannot gain their direct support. The surest way for a man to lose the respect of others (as well as his self-respect) is to violate his own values.

Life will test the man to see if he’s willing to put loyalty to others ahead of loyalty to his principles. The man will be offered many temptations to expose his true loyalties. A man’s greatest reward is to live with integrity, and his greatest punishment is what he inflicts upon himself for placing anything above his integrity. Whenever the man sacrifices his integrity, he loses his freedom… and himself as well. He becomes an object of pity.